Training Up a Child

Alan Creech has a post on his blog in which he talks about parent’s’ responsibility to raise and train his or her children in the faith.  I couldn’t agree with him more.  He writes, and I quote:

I’m thinking of how I have taught them over the years, what I’ve taught them, and it actually is my primary responsibility to teach them and raise them in the Faith. It’s no one else’s responsibility. It’s mine. It’s Liz’s. If you’re a parent, it’s YOUR responsibility.

You see where I’m going with this. And of course I’ll say that there is a sense in which it takes a… community. It does take the Church, of which we are a part, to fully complete the formation of any person. I’m not just talking about the institutional/official classes and staff members. They may play their part but only as organically real members of Christ’s Body, working in Him and by His Grace and the power of the Holy Spirit to help in the formation of our children into the Image of Christ. If we’re talking front-lines here, though, we’re talking about ME as a parent. If you’re a Catholic, you should know that the Church teaches you exactly what I’m saying. It’s not the Parish council’s job, not the Priest’s job, not the good Sisters at the school, not their job, or the Youth Minister’s job, primarily, to transfer the deposit of Faith into your children. That’s supposed to happen in what is called “the domestic church” – your family. Again, all those things and people will and can play their parts but they cannot, and should not, take the place of YOU, the parent.
My point is that if you abdicate this responsibility to “the Church,” you are doing just that, abdicating a real responsibility that has been given to YOU as a member of “the Church.”

I realize that some parents believe they are busier nowadays than parents in the past.  Many two-parent families have both the dad and mom working full-time jobs.  Further, when they get home, they find themselves carting their children around to their various activities.  And when we consider the plight of single parents, the argument that there is little time for faith formation in the home would seem to be airtight.

But the fact of the matter is, that in the days gone by, life was much more difficult than it is now.  We have so many time-saving appliances (microwaves, washers, dryers, cars, etc. . . ), and not many people I know today make their own clothes or grow their own food.  What we have is not a lack of time, but an unwillingness to make “training up a child” a priority.  It is too easy to get caught up in the busyness of life and let this most important task slide. But parents let it slide to their children’s detriment.  After all, they may receive all kinds of good stuff from worship in church, from youth groups and even Sunday School (though I doubt it), but unless a child sees that faith is important to her or his parent(s), then all the encouragement they may receive from other people and organizations will be diluted, perhaps to the point of being all but worthless.

Anyway, that’s my take on this issue.  What’s yours?  If you have the time, and why wouldn’t you, go on over to Alan’s blog and read more of what he has to say here:  train up a child, which was originally posted on Thursday, 26 July 2007.

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Trip to NYC with Desiree – June 2008

Back in June, Desiree and I went with other kids from her HS musical production of “The Sound of Music” and their parents to NYC to see the Broadway production of “Mary Poppins.”  It was a long day for me (from 3 am Wednesday to 6 am Thursday), but we all had a good time.  Here are some of the pictures to prove it.


On the Road to NYC


With some of the group in front of the theater.


Inside Toys R Us


Desiree giving me "the look" while we are riding the ferris wheel in Toys R Us


Another picture of Desiree in Toys R Us


The City - Times Aquare


The City Again


Architectural Detail - NYC Building - My favorite photo of the trip, besides those of my lovely daughter.


You’ve Got to Hand it to Her

Today I got an email from my lovely daughter, who is at her mom’s this week.  The background for this email has to do with the fact that about 3 months ago I got a new mobile phone and calling plan, so I gave my old tracphone to Desiree.  It had the equivalent of almost 300 minutes on it at the time, and these lasted her over two months.  However, after two weeks of summer camp at different campgrounds, Desiree has made a great many new friends , including a new boyfriend.  This, of course, has also meant an exponential increase in phone calls and text messages (which is not so great).

Thus this email:

Desiree Humes
to me

I only have 2.8 mins left, don’t call my cell unless you have a suggestion to how I can possibly get more mins. I really need them bad so please give me some

love your faithful daughter,

Note how she both pleads for more minutes while simultaneously asking for a possible solution to her problem, while also pointing out that I will soon not be able to call her.  The topper is her signature line:  “love your faithful daughter.”

Naturally, I got her some more minutes.  What else could a father, of such a faithful and loving daughter, do?